This week, in my family, we started down a common path to lose five pounds in the next month. My daughter is getting married in 31 days, and we all want to look our best in our fancy clothes and the pictures that record the day for perpetuity.
It’s not that we haven’t been preparing up to now. In fact, we work with this great nutritionist, eat well most of the time, and get lots of regular exercise. Of course, the local, organic home-made ice cream did not contribute to our goals this summer. But it is important to patronize your local farmers and food producers, right?
It’s still funny to note that no matter how much you prepare for a big event like a wedding, the last weeks leading up to it are always full of anticipation and special preparations. In a twisted sort of way it’s actually fun. Because we feel pushed to work even harder on our good diet and exercise, it’s like having a really good external reward waiting for us when we succeed—the satisfaction of knowing we’ll look good forever in those pictures.
That’s even better than a handful of M&Ms. And the internal reward, building stronger bonds with your loved ones, even through the bickering and little stresses, reinforces the strength of being “in on it.”
I’m always amazed at how good this kind of external support feels. And equally amazed at how hard it is for most of us to ask for help. Just by knowing that everyone in the family is eating better, working on trying to stay calm, and letting off steam at the gym, we get this sweet sense of being “in on” this together. And that’s exactly how we’ll get through this, enjoy it, savor it even, as such a special time in our lives.
It’s a good thing to stop and take stock every now and then, and evaluate who is “in on this thing”—whatever your thing is right now—together. There’s nothing more satisfying than pulling off a good goal as a team. You get that feeling of something bigger than you at work.