I don’t know about you, but I’m embarrassed to admit that I actually know that Lindsay Lohan is in jail again. This is stuff that makes no difference to me, but I find myself bombarded with it in daily life anyway.
We only have so much space in our brains to concentrate on important things. Then along comes this nonsense. Pop culture seems to work like that. Distractions. It’s about a lot of distractions. What’s worse, they are distractions that you are somehow expected to know about and get sucked into, like it or not.
Would it be that bad if we stopped reading People Magazine, or chose not to watch CNN when it was reporting on such things? It seems we are drawn to be part of these stories if for no other reason than to look like we’re “up on things”, not to mention that we just can’t avoid it if we’re reading, watching or listening to any kind of news headlines.
There’s also something else going on here. Some of us escape into building relationships with TV or film characters because it’s an easy way to relate without committing to the hassles of real relationships. Psychologists call it “para social interaction.” This is when we get wrapped up in relationships that can never be real. Kind of like getting pulled in to knowing about good ‘ole Lindsay.
We all need escapes. No doubt about it. But this phenomenon of getting attached to stories that take time away from what is important certainly gives me cause to pause. Getting wrapped up in things that look good to others, whether it’s being up on pop culture, or making a choice that someone else thinks is right for us, only takes us down a rabbit hole that sucks lots of time and energy, but doesn’t lead anywhere.
This simply reminds us to guard our time well. I beware of getting sucked into new TV shows or conversations that devolve for too long into the escapades of stars. I’d rather talk about the doings of my family and friends, and guard my time to reflect on what I want to happen next.
OK. We admit we know where Lindsay is. Then we move on to checking in on where we are, and spending the energy on moving ourselves ahead in our world, finding the intersection where we can make a difference to a need that crosses our path.