The power of a partner is undeniable. Being the social animals we are, humans naturally pair up and team up to get things done. But partnering is especially important when you are pioneering in new territory and building new things. It’s why there was a Lewis AND Clark. Breaking new ground needs extra brain-power, a shoulder to lean on, and someone to bounce ideas off of.
For most of the last two years I have been building a new program on resilience with my partner Rick. Not only do we have complementary skills, but we are willing to support one another through the product development process—putting up with writer’s block, personal setbacks, and time to let ideas stew. Though a little slower than we would like (and we get impatient at times), we are realizing that accepting the pace and the environment we are in is actually contributing to the depth and richness of the product we are developing. After all, resilience requires strength building, as well as making time to absorb the hits we take, recover from them, and renew our commitment to our work or our people.
What’s exceptional about working with the right person is the feeling of undeniable trust and acceptance you feel. It helps you believe you can conquer the world. And when you’re building something from scratch, that requires weeks of research, writing, design, and the usual blood, sweat and tears, it’s trust and belief in one another and your cause that gets you through.
We find ourselves setting deadlines, pushing our ideas out there, and when they don’t quite land where we want, helping each other step back and be patient. There’s a funny relationship between pushing and pulling, surrendering and not grasping. It might sound counterintuitive to not keep pushing, especially when you’re building a new business. But we are finding that rather than constantly hunting, which can be forcing something before it’s ready, we are far better served by slowing down and sitting still. Rather than grasping and clutching, we are looking for the openings, staying tuned to the vibes that resonate to the work we are producing, and trusting that when the time is right, we’ll be ready for the sprint.
It is like being in training when you’re building a new product. You have to stay disciplined, keep up the routine, invest in strengthening, stay prepped for the race. It’s a new experience, not pushing for the adrenaline rush, but making steady progress. I don’t think it’s for everyone, but I feel it building an increasing sense of purpose around our new program.
What I know is that trust allows you to survive while you’re in building mode, whether it’s pioneering a new continent or a new way of helping people stay strong and resilient in the 21st Century. When the mood swings low, this trust and confidence keeps you going.
So I hope you have a buddy, a partner to share your growing times with — be they growing pains or growth spurts. It makes all the difference in the world.